No Way a Coincidence

 

*This is a picture of Tyson's recent visit with us after being away for so long.  I love him.  Much.

 

This is a continuation of Tyson and my dating experience.
This story is a serious story.

Just to warn you.

No Way a Coincidence

By Bethany

When I first met Tyson, I was on the re-bound.  I had a previous relationship that was pretty emotionally attaching and somewhat hard in the detaching if you know what I mean.  Me and "he" still remained friends even after breaking things off.

Then I met Tyson and we started to date.

I then got an unexpected phone call.  It was "he"...with some bad news.  He was in the hospital with cancer.  We were still great friends.  So, I dropped everything and went to see him.  We talked, hugged, and just spent a little time with one another at the hospital.  "He" would be spending a lot of time at the hospital...and as a close friend, I planned to visit him often.

Soon after the first visit....something happened that I know was no coincidence.  I got sick.  And of course with any sort of sickness I wasn't allowed to visit "he".

That's when Tyson came into play.  He came to my apartment and took care of me.  He made me soup, brought me flowers, and most importantly he kept me company.  We just talked, ate soup, and talked some more.

This of course was the LONGEST sickness I've ever had.  I couldn't kick it save the life of me.  I wasn't lying in bed the entire time of course and didn't need special care and attention.  But I had enough of lingering sickness that I wasn't able to go to the hospital.

It was during that time that Tyson and I became much closer to one another, to the point where we were engaged soon after.

And I can honestly say that Heavenly Father was watching after us.  My guess, He knew I coudn't get closer to Tyson with me heading off for hospital visits all the time.  My guess is that He also used this as a time for Tyson to step in and take care of me so I could realize how amazing of a person he really is.

The Phone Call

Here's another blast to the past of how Tyson and I came to be.

Previously on our dating story....

We met in a hot tub. 
Held hands despite better judgement. 
Reluctantly exchanged phone numbers.

Now let the embarrassment continue as we continue to Part II of the story.

The Phone Call

By Bethany

Perhaps a week or so after exchanging phone numbers,Tyson gave me a call.  A bunch of his friends were getting together and he called to invite me along.

I reluctantly said yes.

Then I remembered something.  A promise I made to a friend.

I promised my best friend, Rachel, that I would go to water aerobics with her during the time I was supposed to go with Tyson.  So, I gave her a call.

*There was very little I remember about that conversation to Rachel.  So, I just called her to ask what she remembers.  The only thing she remembers of that conversation was that I felt bad ditching her and then decided that she was more important to me than Tyson at that point in my life.  So, I decided to bail on Tyson.

I then gave Tyson a call back and bailed on him.

His thoughts, "The ultimate ditch...water aerobics.  Well, I've done my duty and called her."

I went to water aerobics.

The only thing I remember about water aerobics was thinking "water aerobics isn't made for short people" as the water was a little too high for me and my feet BARELY touched the ground.

After water aerobics, guilt filled my soul.

I called Tyson back.

Me:  "Hey, I'm done with water aerobics.  Are you guys still together?"

Tyson:  "Yeah.  We are at IHOP if you want to come."

Me:  "Sure.  Let me get ready and come."

I didn't spend much time getting ready.  I admit it.

Inside IHOP everyone was conveniently placed so I only had one choice...to sit next to Tyson.

And a plate of smiley face pancakes were waiting for me.

I don't think Tyson or I talked much.

We then decided to go to my apartment to watch a movie.

And of course...despite our better judgement...we held hands and cuddled.

Interested in each other?  Nope.

Then we all parted our separate ways.

Guilt set in.

How do you get rid of a guy when you obviously can't be trusted to be anywhere NEAR him without physical contact?

Text him.  Obviously.

I'm such a chicken.

While I can't remember with exact detail...but the jist of my text was this:

"We should get together and get to know each other

...and not have any physical contact."

He agreed.

I honestly don't remember much about our next meeting.

I remember he came to my apartment, we talked, and we played the laughing game where we would see how long we could stare at each other without laughing.

And I remember after that date knowing that we were "dating".

No bells and whistles.  No magic moment.  No DTR.  We just knew it.

That was the beginning.

How Tyson and I Met

Just a little story for you all to enjoy...

How Tyson and I Met

(The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly)

By: Bethany

Before we met...

I was attending UVSC.
Tyson was attending BYU.

I was invited to a party at a friend's cabin.
My friend's sister also invited friends to the cabin, one of which was Tyson.

I had recently had a break up with a boy.  I was on the rebound.
Tyson recently had a break up with a girl.  He was also on the rebound.

The actual meeting...

The cabin had a hot tub.  Tyson's friends from high school all decided to get inside the hot tub where they were...well...acting like boys.  And I had a friend who saw the opportunity to join in a hot tub full of boys.  She asked me to come inside the hot tub with her...and I decided "alright...I suppose."  But honestly, boys acting like...well, boys....didn't really appeal to me.  So, I felt no need to really impress anyone.

I found my place in the hot tub...next to Tyson.  And didn't feel a need to be shy.  So, I admit (with a little bit of embarrassment in my voice) that when I started to get hot, which often happens in hot tubs, I put my arms outside the hot tub...which incidentally landed my hand right in back of Tyson.  I somehow got a feel of his hair...and realized how soft his hair was.  (Later I found out that Tyson actually got some new shampoo and conditioner that was quite incredible and high quality and he didn't blame me for wanting to touch his hair...cause it was truly soft.)  So...I played with his hair.

We all joked and played.  And then we got out of the hot tub.

We got dressed and I ran into Tyson again where everyone else was hanging out....but I didn't recognize him.

Tyson came up to me acting like he knew me.

Me:  "Hi.  I'm Bethany.  What's your name?"

Tyson (confused):  "...Tyson..."
Me:  "Oh sorry!  I didn't recognize you with your clothes on!"

Awkward silence.

We parted.

Later a bunch of people were going to watch a movie.  I decided to join and there wasn't much place to sit.  I, of course, ended up sitting next to Tyson again (each of us with no interest in each other).  Not planned, just happened.  Of course it was cold, so we hand a blanket over us.

During the movie, Tyson put his hand down by his side under the blanket (which of course we had to sit close to each other because there were so many people in the room)...SO...putting his hand to the side meant that his hand was touching my leg. 

I took that as "I would like to hold your hand."
After a while I decided to play the game.  I put my hand to my side...also touching his hand.

He took that as "I would like to hold your hand."
After a while he decided to play the game and held my hand.

The movie ended. I left thinking "What did I just do!?!"
He was cornered by his friends asking "What did you just do?!?"

I searched for a good friend of mine and pulled him aside to tell him my story.  He told me to steer clear of Tyson and whatever I do, don't give him my phone number.

Tyson, being the good boy he is, decided that it would be totally rude and inappropriate to leave me hanging after holding my hand.  He decided to get my phone number, take me on a date, and having done his duty...call it good to end it there.

I avoided Tyson.

But of course the heavens wouldn't let us off that easily.

My ride had left and I needed to find a new ride.  Good thing someone had brought a large van with two extra seats for me and my roommate to hitch a ride.  And of course who was also in the van?  Tyson.  And of course I was the last person in the van, forcing me to once again sit by Tyson.

It was awkward.

Tyson:  "So, could I get your number?"

(Silence)

(I have an obvious look of "oh I really don't want to give you my number.")

(Tyson's thinking "oh boy....this is bad.")

Me: "....OK...."

(I give him my number)

(Awkward silence and small talk the rest of way home)

So, that's how Tyson and I met....

To Be Continued....

Next Story:  The Phone Call

Who Wants to Hear Some Good News?

I get to see my husband on SATURDAY!

For one week I'll have solid proof that I do, indeed, have a husband.

Hurray!

October Fun

October has treated us well thus far.  We've been able to really practice up on our Halloween spirit the past few days.  We went to Gardner Village to see the Witches displays and we also went to a little Halloween party of someone in our ward that decks out their house for the season.  They open their house with a little party with mostly ward members and other close friends of theirs.  They had karaoke, cotton candy, face painting, food, desserts, and lots of fun times.  Here are a few pictures of the events (not in the right order...but its all good).

30 Weeks

I don't think I've taken a classic "side view of the prego belly" picture yet this pregnancy.  So, I thought I'd take one to share.  Although I don't think this is the most flattering picture of me....pity.

Not much is going on with the pregnancy.  Things seem to be as normal as can be.  Just getting bigger, I have crazy dreams every night, a bit of morning sickness in the morning, a bit of heartburn at night, back pains, and I fully admit that I already find myself waddling a bit.

But other than that, things are grand.  Honestly, it could be worse...MUCH worse.  So, I'm grateful.

10 weeks....

It does scare me.

I mean...3 kids?  Seriously?  What was I thinking?

I may not survive.

Often times I think I won't survive the "name-the-baby game" that has turned into "I refuse to think of any names until I'm in the hospital in labor because naming this baby is giving me ulcers to add to my other pregnancy symptoms."

Ok fine.  Cut the drama.

I'll survive.

Curiosity

Most people seem curious what is actually going on with Tyson being gone.

So, I'll explain.

Tyson's in his fourth year of medical school. He plans on being a radiologist. Right now he's in the process of sending out applications for residency programs. He needs to send in his application, get an interview, and then he ranks where he wants 1 to however many. Then the residency program people rank HIM on their scales depending on how much they want him there. Then a computer puts everything into a system where it magically pops up with a "match" for the best placements.

All others who don't "match" have to "scramble". The student is then responsible for finding openings to programs by themselves whereever openings are available.

Right now Tyson is travelling around to a bunch of places he feels are good possibilities for residencies. He pretty much wants to show his face to the residency people to make a good impression and show that he really does want to go to their program. He's doing this from now until interviews are being held so he can be fresh in their mind when they are looking through applications.

Therefore, he's out and about trying to make a good impression and seeing if he likes their programs while I'm living in my parent's house (they are on a mission but my sister also lives here in the upstairs and I occupy the downstairs).

*phew*

Hope I got all that right....and it made sense.

He first went to Kansas City....now he's in Tuscan, AZ....followed by Mesa, AZ...then to Peoria, IL.

Answers to questions I often get asked...

Q: Do I get to see Tyson during all this time he's away?
A: No...not really, unless you count Skype. There is one week in October he'll be able to come home and I may be able to travel out there for a week in October as well.

Q: Am I dying without a husband around?
A: I'm OK for one reason....family. I have family around me that keep me busy and help me out. Without them, I would be one sad and lonely wife. But I do still miss him.

Q: When does he come back? Will he go out travelling later?
A: He is done with away rotations November 30. After that he's pretty much doing rotations in either Provo or Salt Lake with the exception of two months in St. George...where me and the kids will be packing up and going with him.

Q: Wait...when is the baby due?
A: December 2 (two days after Tyson comes home). I'm probably the only pregnant person who HOPES to make it clear to my due date. I'd prefer no sooner or else Tyson won't be there. But at the same time, I've already got it in my head that he may not be there for the birth of baby #3...and I'm OK with that.

Q: Is it hard living with family?
A: There are a few negatives of course but the positives BY FAR outweigh the negatives. I'm so glad that my family is around and that I can always take a short car ride to see Tyson's family as well. I love both families and they are a blessing and miracle in my life.

And now for something less serious....some videos of the kiddos.  I had a few more videos that I thought were funny but for some reason they didn't come through on the email I sent them to.  So...as I tell my kids, you get what you get and you don't throw a fit.  :)

Eden learning to ride a bike.  She needs to work on speed.  Then again, she's my girl who always tells me "slow and steady wins the race".

Leila strolling her cousin Ramona around.